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First, COVID ravaged the country, and I chose to isolate (abide by social distancing) instead of visiting with people in person. I count my blessings that I had the privilege of that option. Like many others, I eventually started an Only Fans, but I quickly found the work to be different from in-person work in […]

There are competing tropes common in the industry, some of which give me cause for pause and reflection. For example, one is the prevalence of, “We all run our business differently, and that’s OK!” on the one hand and, “Don’t say/do that, because you have X impact on the rest of us!” on the other. Sometimes

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“How to determine a legitimate provider from a fake if you don’t (or she doesn’t) participate in review culture” When I began drafting this blog post tonight, I included the following paragraph at the bottom of the new entry. Before I could finish writing, however, news broke that the Adult Ads section of Backpage had

In preparation for the launch of the new website, I asked for feedback from trusted friends. One of them, a male provider, suggested that I not reference a specific number of weekly or monthly dates to clarify what I mean by “low volume provider.” Specific numbers, he said, would be a turn-off to potential suitors. My

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I recently had an experience with TER that could be easily overlooked or written off as “just another provider griping about what some of us already know.” I urge you not to do this, and this is why: I choose to be an escort because I enjoy escorting; I don’t need to escort to pay

This blog is more of a response to a conversation than a work of inspired wisdom, insight, or deep thought. It’s an attempt to clarify this tweet: “I don’t sell sex. I sell an experience; an opportunity to be honest, vulnerable, unjudged, in which eroticism is celebrated. It’s different.” It received a lot of “likes”

The questions of why and how sexworkers or companions charge the rates we do is one that I hear on both sides of the provider/client fence. In a November 2015 Medium article, Andre Shakti comments that, “Sex workers have no health insurance, no workers compensation or vacation pay, and generating money is a constant hustle

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